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What to Do When “Dating Fatigue” Hits

Greetings dear readers!

Dating can be tiring too.

Do you know what it’s like when you fail despite having tried your best?  Well that applies to dating too, and I should know – it happened to me.  It was after a very difficult breakup when I felt I was too drained to want to date again – ever!  Don’t worry if the same happens to you though, because it’s normal to feel that way sometimes and also because the feeling passes.  How long it takes for you to get over it, if that is really what you want to do, depends on how you approach the problem.

“The cycle of meeting woman after woman after woman in the same process of going out, getting cozy, and falling out even before it materializes into something good and potentially lasting can become too much for some people after some time.”

Dating can be tiring, and no one can blame you. After all, that’s time and energy invested into something that just went totally down the drain – sometimes in the most horrible, most traumatizing way in the form of awful dates.

What do you do when you get to this point in your single life? What should you do when you don’t feel like meeting women? Should you already wave the white flag on dating and confine yourself into becoming the male version of the lonely spinster with a hundred pet cats?

Try these!

When dating fatigue hits you in the face, here are things that you might actually want to try:

Being happily single. Stop going out on dates. Give your heart and mind a break and stop going out on dates. Seeking women can be an elixir of vitality for some men, but after some time, futile hours spent trying to win a girl who ends up being an emotional wreck, a psycho, or someone totally out of your league can weaken you. So stop going on dates. Go on a ‘date holiday’ and enjoy time for yourself. Stop listening to people trying to pressure you into being in a relationship. Stay single for as long as you want and need; trust me, you’ll survive it. You’ll discover a lot of things about yourself that you would not have known otherwise if you didn’t give yourself time to be alone in your thoughts. The best part is you won’t have to pay for two dinners and your phone bill would probably be cut in half! Know how to play mind games with women ????

Try a different approach to dating. We get into dating with expectations. We always want something good to come out of each date and expecting each one of them to succeed – whilst normal and common to most – may not be healthy for your heart. Before going out to meet a lady on a date, tell yourself and the universe this: “surprise me!” Drop your notions and presumptions about how the date is going to be like, how she’s going to be like, and how good your kids would look like. Treat dating a little more casually – you might just enjoy it more.

Discover and mingle with a different crowd. Maybe your usual hangouts and the usual type of people don’t get you excited or happy anymore. Maybe you need a taste of the more conservative type, or the more eccentric ones. Either way, try to discover the people outside of your usual crowd and your comfort zone; there might be something there that suits and fulfills what you’re looking for in dating. Don’t be afraid to try to new things; after all that’s the only way to discover new stuff and new people too.

Everyone gets tired at some point. Embrace it, be willing to live with it for that’s the only way to know what you want to do next.

Thanks for reading! Also read this interesting article from experienceproject.com ????

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