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Don’t You Dare Tell Her These Things

Good day friends!

One of the most common complaints from men is that it is very hard to understand women.  on the other hand, I feel so frustrated that men don’t understand us women – and I am by no means alone.  That is something that may have contributed to my latest breakup, and a few others before that. One  of the usual things that bring a relationship to a head is when men, unintentionally for the most part, offend women with the things they say.

Men don’t know women. And perhaps they never will.

It’s funny just how long men have been chasing women and how far the human civilization has come but men still find women a total mystery. Except for the chosen few amongst the male lot who have mastered the SIBG guide on humor seduction or called themselves experts in women (aka playboys and gays), men still make the same mistakes their ancestors did. Forgotten dates, inappropriate gifts, and more commonly, wrong remarks are the top three on the women’s offense list. And mind you, it is wrong.

5 things you shouldn’t tell her.

And since wrong remarks are the most common offense (and oftentimes, the most offensive), here’s a little heads up to every man out there. Here are 5 things a woman would never want to hear from her man:

“You don’t look good in that dress”. This becomes extra offensive if she dressed and made up for hours to go out with you. Boy, remember this: she wants you to appreciate her, and she just definitely wants you to be proud of her, and be proud to be walking around with her. Not so much for being a trophy girlfriend, but it does not harm our female egos for our men to show us off.

“Did you gain weight?” The only way this statement is non-offensive is if your girlfriend is underweight and is working hard on gaining weight. But for the most of us, we are in a constant battle with weight gain, expanding waistlines, and arms that seem to be in a size competition with the size of our legs.  Why not try “Have you lost some weight?” for better results? [15]

“My ex *insert verb here* so much better!” of “My ex is *insert comparative adjective here*”. Even when you didn’t mean it to belittle your girlfriend, anything that tells her that she’s inferior to your ex-girlfriend in any way is offensive and could land you in the couch for several nights, along with several servings of the cold shoulder! Seriously, how would you feel if you get compared to your girlfriend’s ex-boyfriend? You likely wouldn’t like it knowing the average size of the male ego! (Oh and one other tip: any mention of the ex would similarly merit the same amount of rage from your girlfriend so just avoid it at all costs anyway).

“You’re just like your mother”. Mother-daughter relationships are as sweet as it is competitive. And definitely not all women appreciate being compared to their own moms, mostly because they get a lot of that at home. You are likely to be opening up old wounds if you drop this type of bomb and she may never forgive you for it.

“It was nothing, not a big deal!” A woman makes a big deal out of everything, that’s for sure. And if you made a mistake, if you did something that’s obviously wrong and made her upset, the last thing you’d want to do is shrug it off as something that’s “not a big deal” and try to get away with it, or worst, justify it.

Saying this to a woman is the worst way to end a relationship with her. So, men, which of these are you guilty of?

Instead, read this article to know what is the right thing to say ????

Questions? Concerns? Need advice? Need tips? Email me now at Jenny@fringefamous.com! I’ll promise to get back to all of you as fast as I can! God Bless!

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Make Her Smile Without Spending A Penny

Howdy guys!

Do you know that for women like me, effort is often worth more than the real value of gifts?  Yes it is.  I still remember the most memorable gifts I have ever received are ones which involve personal effort and a bit of personalization.  Real cost is nothing.  When they say “it’s the thought that counts” believe it!  There are some awesome gift ideas you don’t even need to spend a penny on, literally!

The best things in life are for free. Of course, that would be discounting wines, roses, 5-course dinners, hotel rooms, holiday vacation tickets, and even joyrides from the ‘best things’ list. If the greatest of things are free, everything else that you have to spend on is definitely out of the list.

But would you believe me if I tell you that there are still ways to make your girl happy without spending a single cent on anything? Impossible you say? Raise your eyebrows do you? Wanna bet?

Here are some ways to make your girlfriend happy without spending anything:

Make a love letter. If you think your snail mail is out of fashion, outdated and boring, think again when you see the smile on your girl’s face when she receives one out of the blue and when she least expects it. This is also one of the sure ways of how to get a girl. The mailbox does not necessarily have to be limited to bills and newsletters and magazine subscriptions. It is also a perfect place to hold a surprise handwritten love letter. Why not email you say? Email is too easy. Email is so mainstream and so impersonal. Love letters, on the other hand, contain your handprint, your personal imprint, and maybe your teeny tiny kisses. What do you have to spend for it? You don’t even need to buy a stamp. Stash it in her bag or put it in the mailbox; write it on some clean bond, or borrow some parchment from the office secretary and voila! The tip is to write from the heart and to write honestly – bare your heart with every stroke of your pen. Cost: $0. You might have to deal with teary kisses though; yes, that’s how much power comes from a single handwritten letter. Here are some first lines to get you started.

Serve breakfast in bed. You don’t need to be a Gordon Ramsay to whip up breakfast in bed for le ladylove. The purpose of this is not to show off your culinary skills anyway. The purpose of this gesture is to be sweet and caring and to be seen as the most thoughtful man in the world. So go ahead and scrounge in the pantry for some awesome breakfast surprise. Make pancakes from an instant mix, get some fresh fruits, and maybe even some fresh milk. Arrange them to spell her name, or draw some hearts with your chocolate syrup on her plate and seal it with a kiss. Start her day right and sweet, and she’ll love you all day and all night long.

Stage a magical moment in your very own backyard. Not all women fall for jerks. Gather up some posies and put it on her hair. Set up a mini stage in your garden, or a mini dance ‘floor’. Play some music from Enya and dance under the moonlight. While you’re slow dancing, profess your undying love to her. Tell her how beautiful she is, how amazing she is, and how much you want her. Declare the future you dream of for you and her together and tell her how happy you are with her. Nothing is sweeter than the profession of love of the man you love. If you do this, you have her head over heels for you like it were the very first time.

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