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Winning Her Mom’s Vote

Hi friends!

Do you know that I just told my boyfriend it may be time for him to meet my parents?  You all should have seen the reaction on his face.  Maybe he watched and believed in the situations shown in the movie “Meet the parents.”  But you know what? Unless you have less than good intentions, meeting and impressing the parents should not be too hard.  The best way to get a headstart is to make sure you impress her mother – it’s she who will likely win the father’s approval for you.

After meeting her girlfriends, there comes a time in a lasting relationship where you’d have to meet each other’s parents. While may think the father of your girlfriend will be your greatest challenge, impressing her mommy wouldn’t exactly be easy either, although she’d be much more accommodating and much less intimidating to say the least (just imagine all the treats and goodies she’s going to make for you when you come over to visit).  It all depends on how you approach her.

Well, how to make a woman like you is a way easier to learn than to make her mom like you.

Tips to impress her Mom

However, in comparison to the difficulty of having to impress her dad, impress her mom could work to your advantage. Getting her vote, after all, is inching just a tiny wee bit closer to impressing her dad. So how do you win mommy? Here are some very wonderful tips:

Always come with a special gift just for her. Men will always worry exaggeratedly about what gift to give to the daddy and just settle on some fresh flowers for the mommy. That’s terribly  wrong way to impress women. Ask your girlfriend about what her mom likes and what makes her happy. Great suggestions would be a new tea set, some ornamental plant if she’s a green thumb, or a framed cross stitch work for her foyer or living room.

Call her beforehand. It would take a lot of guts and maybe a shot of tequila straight up to get the courage to make that call but if you nail it, you’d be one step ahead. Call to ask about her, if there’s anything you can get for her on the day you visit, and just generally get yourself semi-acquainted before the big meet.

Ask about her daughter’s childhood. Not every guy around has that kind of interest in their lover’s past; the ladies may be more attuned and more interested to these sort of things, but your girlfriend’s mother would be more than delighted to tell you her stories. (This might cause your girlfriend to blush a bit though).

Dress to impress. Your girlfriend’s mother comes from a different generation, more likely than not, a generation that knows how to value proper grooming and being well-dressed. So dress the part of the guy who wants to be decent when he gets introduced to the most important people in his girlfriend’s life. You don’t have to look fancy or rich, but you have to look respectable. Putting an effort to look your best is showing that in fact you respect and value the opportunity of getting to know them. And while most men let this little detail slip away, the mommy absolutely won’t.

Make her laugh. Humor is a very important component in every relationship and it is one of the most efficient ways to break the ice. And it is your best tool in winning your girlfriend’s mother. Stick to old school, nicety nice kind of humor, or poke-fun-at-yourself kind of jokes. She may not exactly get the allusion on pop culture stuff so keep things friendly and chronologically relevant.

Put your best foot forward with your manners. Etiquette sweeps any potential mother-in-law off her feet, everytime. So never forget your own mom’s lessons about it!

Good luck!

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