How To Pick Her Up For Your Date

Hello dear readers!  It’s good to be back with another post about dating.

I’ve always felt that a guy should pick up his date.  It may be just me but that’s how I feel about it.  And I am always attentive when the guy comes to pick me up; I’m always looking for subtle clues about his character.  Is does he open the car door for me?  Does he make sure I am comfortable before driving off?  Does he drive carefully? Etc.  And, yes, I expect to be delivered safely back home after the date.

Chivalry is not dead, and even the slightest hint of it will still earn you points with most women. Unless, of course she takes your chivalry as an indication you’re not treating her as an equal, the simplest gestures will definitely be well appreciated.

When going out on a date, dating experts always suggest at picking up your date.  Some women may be wary of doing this on a first date, especially if she hardly knows you, and softens up to the idea only after three, four, or more dates. However, it is always safe to offer. If she declines, respect her decision graciously. If she accepts, well then keep reading mister! How to attract a woman and make her like you are two different things.  You’ll need to know how to properly pick up a woman for your date:

Be on time. Whether you are picking her up or not, a man should never make his lady wait. It is just rude. Ideally, when picking her up, arrive about 15 minutes early to give yourself enough time to make an impression on her. You are also giving yourself enough time to prep up a bit before presenting yourself to her. This is the best time to dab on some man cologne too.

Since you are making yourself smell good for her, make the most out of it by putting it on just before you knock on her front door.

If you are driving a car, always make sure you park in front of her house or at least close to it. Make sure she does not have to walk far from her door to your car. If you are taking a cab, you may want to ask the cab driver to wait for you guys so she does not have to stand on the curb for long while you try to get another cab.

Bring her something. A small token, a bouquet of flowers, or a bottle of wine or champagne will do. Some sweet stuff will do too. Just as when you have dinner over at a friend’s, a small token is a sign of courtesy. We know you hate buying flowers, but women love them. It does not have to be extremely expensive or grand; even the smallest thought is enough. For a date, a floral bouquet is most ideal. If she lives with her parents, siblings, or friends, an ideal gift would be something that everyone will enjoy – a sweet cake, wine, or something similar would be nice.

Take her home. Drive her home. If you picked her up, common courtesy calls for you to bring her home. Don’t be a jerk. And don’t just sit there at the driver’s seat! Get out of the car and see her safely inside her house before you leave. You’ll never be invited over for some after-dinner date if you just drop her off and drive off like a school bus.

And while at it, don’t forget to be a complete gentleman – helping her to her seat, holding her arm gently while walking, opening the door and car door for her, etc. Remember, she’s your date – not your business partner.

Too shy and reserved to ask her out? Try attending my Yoga and Meditation class – go here.

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Dating Lessons Good Guys Can Learn From Jerks

Hello loyal followers.

Do you ever wonder why the good guys don’t always win?  I have.  And even in my own choices, I sometimes second-guess myself.  Why did I choose an obviously inferior person over someone even I would consider a “good catch?”  A friend enlightened me by explaining that it is often a combination of the natural women’s psyche and “marketing” on the guy’s part that seals the deal.  To understand what lessons good guys can learn from jerks, read on.

So you’ve been friendzoned. Or you’ve been dumped. And chances are, you have been turned down for the class jerk. You look at your face in the mirror and all you see are disappointment, misery, and a huge blow to your already shattered ego.

You can’t help but ask: why? And then you look at the jerk who took the girl home – along with all the other girls – and continue to ask: why, why, why?

You look at yourself once more and think: you’re nice, you’re loyal, you’re sweet and sensitive, you know how to listen, and she even says you’re ideal and that she’d be so envious of the girl who gets to go home with you. She says all those nice things about you and yet, she goes home with the a-hole.

Why? Here are some of the reasons why girls fall for jerks (and the lessons you can learn from these douche bags too):

Girls love the ego. Girls hate cocky guys, or so we say. Truth is, much as we hate it, girls are attracted to men who can handle themselves, who know themselves well, and who are secure about themselves. Girls find these men attractive because they believe that these men will handle them well. Or they would like to test whether or not women can actually hurt the male ego. If you’re the nice guy, you probably have to learn a thing or two about ego. You have to boost your self esteem so you appear confident. But because you’re the nice guy, you know where the line is drawn between arrogant and confident. Isn’t that just wonderful and absolutely attractive?

Girls like playing mommy. Ever wonder why girls are dating jerks who would not even lift a finger to prepare his own coffee? Who couldn’t even pick up the phone? Who couldn’t handle themselves after a few bottles of alcohol? And then the girl comes to the rescue even when she knows he’s flirted all night with every female creature at the bar? Well, that’s just her maternal instinct working. Women love being needed, taking care of someone, to be the go-to girl when he’s down and troubled – the be the bigger person, selfless and caring and doting like a mother. Ask the guys over at and they’ll tell you I am right! When you’re dating some girl and don’t want to be friendzoned, try being a little needy. Call her when you’re sad, ask her for help on what to get your mom, or get her opinion about how to celebrate your birthday. No, you don’t have be a total douche to let a girl feel needed. It’s all but a matter of balance.

Girls have a weird sense of heroism. He’s cheating. He’s a drunk. He parties a lot and leaves her alone. He wouldn’t even get her anything for her birthday. But she stays. She does not entertain other guys but him. Why? Because somewhere deep in her heart, she hopes and believes that she could be the one to turn this brute of a man around. It’s called the Messiah complex, and a lot of women have it. It just takes a little work and some tearful nights. If you want a girl to fall for you, ask for her help and let her know that you’ve become better because of her. That she’s “saved” you from yourself. (But please don’t overdo it!)

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Dealing With Her PMS

Sorry guys, I just feel the need to post this. I’ve done you a favor by just putting the acronym on the title.  Too much info, right? But hey, if you’re going to deal with this EVERY MONTH, might as well be well-equipped than sorry!

So what’s PMS? (It’s not as gross as you think!)

Pre-Menstrual Syndrome (PMS) – a monthly occurrence in a woman’s life that comes the week of or before her period; largely believed to be caused by fluctuations in her hormones; characterized by any or a combination of weird food cravings, exaggerated fickle mindedness, moodiness, being temperamental, being highly emotional, or all of those symptoms combined; also known as “every-boyfriend’s-worst-monthly-nightmare”.  And no, it’s not just being clingy!

I have read about us girls not using PMS as an excuse to be mean and less than agreeable towards our dear darling boyfriends countless times already. And yes, I couldn’t agree more. It is the most unfair of things.

We experience different kinds of pains during PMS. We just need understanding.
But let me be the voice of all the women out there and allow me to give you fool proof tips for boyfriends on how to handle girlfriends on PMS. (These are inspired by how my own boyfriend handles my seemingly impossible moods in the midst of my PMS).

What to Do

Feed her. What else can be better than food when your hormones are having a party at your expense? Indulge them on foods that release happy hormones like chocolates and other sweets like ice cream. I’ve heard, too, that bananas have that same power so go ahead and get her the most beautiful banana split in the world. Oh, but of course it wouldn’t hurt to bring her whatever her favorite food is.

Get her to be productive. I’ve noticed, amongst me and my friends, that we get extra “clean” with our surroundings on the days leading up to our ‘red days’. We clean out our bags, our rooms, our houses – everything. And so, when she’s on her PMS, offer to help her with cleaning the difficult parts of the house like the ceilings or change her busted lights for her.

Workout with her. Even when it’s supposed to be the crankiest and laziest of days, PMS days are crucial to having a pain-free period. Working out the week before her period will help ease the muscles of the belly and the pelvis, thereby reducing the chances of getting cramps on “the day”. Encourage her to sweat it out with you at the gym and use this bit of ‘science’ to encourage her especially if you know that she is a prone to cramps. I heard yoga is awesome.

Cuddle when she needs it, let go when she say so. Some girls get quick bolts of pain in the belly and pelvis even before the first day of period comes. Oh, and to most of us, our skins become very sensitive and we say ‘ouch’ more often and even for the slightest of touches. In my case too, I always feel like I need to do number 2. Good thing I can now bring with my iPad with me. My toilet read would always be with me.

When she feels the pain, rub her belly gently or cuddle with her. It never fails to make us feel comfortable. But let go when she says doesn’t feel like it or risk unleashing the kraken. We can take all the painkillers in the market and still not get enough relief. So lend us a hand (literally).

Make her laugh. This part is challenging but I’m very proud to say my boyfriend is very good at this. The thing is, we sometimes even feel depressed during this period. My eyebrows could be meeting in an epic frown and I may be the spawn of the devil for all he cares – he will try his best to make me laugh. And somehow he makes it work!

These things sound like a lot of work but then again, it will always depend on two things: how much you care for your girl and/or how much you want to avoid her awful PMS moods. YOU DON’T KNOW HOW DIFFICULT IT IS SO PLEASE BEAR WITH US! We get headaches and pains all over our body. And this is every month. We just need you to understand.

How about you guys, what do you usually do to help your girl feel better on PMS days?

You might want to ask if she wants to attend my Yoga and Meditation class here.

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Online Dating: Boon Or Bane?

Hello Fringers! I was on Facebook earlier and saw an old friend post her pics with her family in Melbourne. She’s married to an Australian chef and they have settled down in Australia. I can’t help but be amazed at how they met – online!

It is amazing how technology has taken a big leap since the invention of the computer. I grew up in the 1990s when technology was just picking up its pace. Back then, dating meant meeting someone in person, spending time with that someone while trying to get to know the person better before deciding whether he or she was a perfect match.

In this digital age, however, everything seems to be possible with just a few clicks on our computers. The internet has really gone a long way from the wonky dial-up to the lightning speed of LTE. With the advent of smart phones and gazillion apps that go with them, everybody seems to be living an online life. We work, shop, pay bills, and order food online. And now, even dating can be done online! [18]But is it an advantage or disadvantage?

Whether online dating is boon or bane still depends largely on how people react to it. I have female friends who, after confessing to having had enough of real-world dating, have tried online dating to meet their perfect mates.

Five out of my six female friends who tried online dating found their prince charmings and got married. All five of them are now living in their respective spouse’s home countries. Yes, they all married interracially. They all have cute kids and are living in their own houses.

You would think that online dating is, therefore, better than real-world dating. It is not as simple as it sounds, though. All five of them had to go through trial and error. Almost all of them were lied to at first. And whether they are living happily ever after, I wouldn’t really know.

If there is one thing that I see as an advantage of online dating, it is the option of not having to meet jerks in person. If you think someone is lying to you, you can easily drop him from your list and move on. It saves us time and emotions. Unlike when you are dating someone in person, and you discovered he is lying, you cannot simply get rid of him especially if he knows where you live or work.

So would I prefer online dating over meeting someone in person? I guess online dating is not for everyone. Moreover, it is just a prelude to real-world dating. The former could never substitute the latter. We are humans, and humans have physical needs, which can only be satisfied physically. Would I try it? I certainly would.   But I would do so with great caution because it is so easy to deceive and be deceived online. I would probably read blogs like as a precaution haha.

If you ask me, online dating can be beneficial as long as we remain smart and vigilant. Although there are a lot of scammers online, there are also a lot of genuine people. It is just a matter of finding the gems from among the rubble. It is always wise, real-world or online, to use our heads first before using our hearts.

– Jeanette

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FringeFamous Guide: How Yoga Could Get You A Date

I could almost hear you say it. I know right? Yoga AND date? If you’ve read the story why I created this site, you’d know that I did to relieve me of stress. I really wanted to try out meditation for health reasons. When I say health, I mean physical and psychological. If you haven’t read my story, you may read it here.  But hey, that doesn’t mean I can’t talk (or text) about other stuff!

A few months ago, I bumped into a friend of mine in a quaint little café near the subway. We haven’t seen each other in a while, so we doubled the effort of trying to catch up with one another over a cup of tea. I particularly noticed how amazing her body looked (and I’m not talking about courtesy here—she REALLY, REALLY looked amazing), so I asked her what has she been up to these days and whatever she was doing to make her body look like it was Photoshopped to perfection.

So, I got my answer—yoga.

The next thing I knew, she was showing me a photo of this really hot guy. He happens to be her new boyfriend. And they met in yoga class.

I decided to sign up for a yoga class immediately after. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t sign up to get a date. But if my friends are up to it, I am backing them up 100 percent. So anyway, like any normal person would, I depended on Google to show me more information on how to begin, but I was quite held back because the options presented to me were quite overwhelming. There are simply too many types of yoga to begin with! Luckily, my friend made my life easier by inviting me over to her Hatha yoga class. Five months later, I was hooked.

And guess what, I’ve made friends with a lot of gorgeous women in that span of time. The guys, although outnumbered, are equally hot. There is something about those who practice yoga that attracts you to them. I just can’t say what it is exactly. Could be the right amount of confidence or the light aura they exude. I am totally sold that yoga could be the answer to your needs — physical, mental, emotional even.

While many people take up yoga classes mainly for physical fitness, I signed up for its psychological health benefits. But having a GREAT body because of it is, of course, a hefty bonus! But seriously, the relationship between meditation and health is something that should not be ignored.

Yoga soothes the mind and cares for the body, too.

Practicing yoga is definitely an experience by itself. Enrolling yourself in a yoga class is your first step to a healthy mind and body. If you want to practice yoga but do not know where to start exactly, here are some basics that can guide you as you start your journey towards well-being.

There are different types of yoga you can choose from. Different strokes for different folks, so they say. I’m listing down four types and I’ve highlighted what each type is all about to help you decide:

Hatha Yoga

Hatha yoga’s essential component would be a purification of the mental, physical, emotional, and energetic bodies. This element of purification is essential because it is believed to address even the most subtle aspects of the human body. Meditation plays a key role in hatha yoga, because concentration and focus is physically and mentally demanded during poses. Brainwave entrainment explores the benefits of hatha yoga, making it the best choice in helping one find spiritual freedom.

Raja Yoga

Raja yoga, also known as Ashtanga yoga, is a more traditional type of yoga that originated in India between 100 and 300 AD. This type of yoga is mostly correlated with intuition and psychic perception; and it is also one of the most advanced types of yoga to practice. Raja yoga requires its practitioner to have reached a state of “self-realization” in order to take advantage of the poses.

Karma Yoga

Popular in the West, Karma yoga focuses on the practitioner’s thoughts, actions, and feelings. The neverending cycle of birth, life, death, and rebirth allows for a more spiritual connection that enables the practitioner to achieve a unique state of calm and stability.

Jnana Yoga

Jnana yoga is becoming more popular over the years, as its approach revolves around rational deduction, wisdom, and intellect. Practitioners of Jnana yoga are taught poses that will aid them to remove self-judgment and self-misconceptions. The process in finding spirituality through Jnana yoga involves Discrimination, Dispassion, Virtue, and Liberation.

On Your Way to Spirituality

Practicing yoga truly has a lot of benefits. I have to admit it is not easy—but no pain, no gain, right? Finding your spiritual path through yoga would allow you to conquer life as it happens, and live a life free from worries and anxieties.

Why Yoga?

If you are a mom like me, try to fit yoga in your tight schedule and you’d be thankful you did. It is indeed a stress-buster, even your kids would be thankful. It takes away your worries and gives you a fresher, brighter outlook. Your partner would be delighted, too, when he sees you in your little black dress on your next date night.

I actually think yoga is perfect for everyone. Whether you’re a single or married woman who lives a fast-paced life or a guy who has tried all the techniques in picking up girls to no avail, this is for you! It makes you exude positive energy so you attract positive energy, too. Don’t just take my word, though. Go out and try it!



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Are You Dating A Clingy Girl?

Good day people!

Back in college, I remember having this guy friend who started disappearing when he started going out with this really hot, really popular girl in school. They were always together so we thought, ‘ahh well, new romance! Who can’t say no to a girl as pretty as her?’ They can never be seen apart, they were always together, and I believe the maximum distance between them in public places is less than a centimeter. He waits for her outside the ladies’ room, as she does for him, they eat on the same plate, they wear matching clothes, and I swear I thought they had each other’s face already. We were amazed at the way our friend knows how to attract women, especially popular girls in school.

You would have thought they were the happiest couple and paradise hath come upon them when they were together. But we were wrong. He was unhappy. I was bewildered when he said how he was really feeling, six months into their relationship. He felt choked, he felt his personal space was violated, and he felt like he had lost himself because she wants all of his attention, time, and all of him. He hated her being clingy.

But what exactly is a clingy girl?

Clingy – girls and boys alike – are people who are so insecure about themselves that they turn to their partners for security. They are quite normal when they are with friends and around other people; only their partners know how weird they can get. They are extremely and illogically jealous and as already mentioned, they want their partners all to themselves forever and ever and ever!!  PMS is an altogether different matter.

Finding the words to say around girls may be hard, but a little warning: clingy girls (and clingy men) would definitely hold on to every word you say. So be careful and watch what you’re saying, if your significant other is clingy. Do not make false promises or they will make your life a living hell when you break it.

I don’t understand why but for some reason, we are more aware of clingy women than clingy men. But I am pretty sure clingy men do exist even in its purest form.

For some people, clinginess is a red flag for a long-term relationship, while others get high on the attention. If you are one guy who can’t stand the thought of living in a world where only the two of you are together, then here are some telltale signs of clinginess in a girl:

She’s always calling you. And when she’s not, she’s texting you.

She texts you when you have not responded to her text for more than 5 minutes.

She gets illogically jealous even of people who she shouldn’t be jealous of (i.e. sisters or female cousins)

She gets jealous of your friends and thinks they are bad influence on you

She gets upset everytime you go out anywhere without her

She won’t do things without you

She devotes all her time and attention to you and she expects you to do the same

She spies on you through friends and acquaintances

She wants detailed information about your daily routine and whereabouts

Clingy girls are not bad girls; something in their lives may have turned them into these kinds of people. They may have been so badly hurt in the past and this is just their way of coping. They want full control of their partners so they don’t get hurt again.

If this is not your kind of thing, then end the relationship before it blossoms.  Do it as soon as you realize you can’t stand this kind of attention. Otherwise, you’ll both end up in a mire of hurt, anger and jealousy. Save yourselves! Now!


Before you make a decision to end it, consider asking her to try yoga and meditation with you.  To attend my Yoga and Meditation class – go here.

Another Long Hiatus…

Whew, it’s been months since I’ve last written in here! Life with Sharon definitely has brought a lot of changes in my life, and now that I’m enjoying motherhood, life has never been this perfect.


I’ve been juggling a thousand jobs ever since I became a mom, but one thing that’s been occupying my schedule lately(besides the occasional diaper-changing and cradle-rocking) is reuniting with one of my first loves– theatre. Being abroad makes me miss a sense of home, so all I can do right now is to read about the ever-vibrant scene of New York theatre and the glam of Broadway. Nothing makes me more excited than performing onstage, but for now, all I can do is get updated with the latest in theatre coming from the other side of the planet. Somehow–it lessens my stress.

Still in the process of gathering all the fun and delightful experiences, and I am really excited to share all of them with you soon. Til then, stay safe!

J x

Some Updates… And An Interesting Article :)

OK, I am now back at blogging after a short break. Welcome me back, people. 🙂

So recently I have been catching up on my reading, and I came across this really good book on Amazon about property flipping:-–HGwKSpjUC&redir_esc=y

It’s called Flip, and it’s about acquiring a property and flipping it for maximum profit. As you know, I am also an investor in real estate (particularly in Malaysia) – see my previous blog posts here and here. Admittedly I am a beginner at this, and I have yet to make any real money in property investment. However, I am confident that I will be able to make it this year – to turn a nice profit from my portfolio of real estate investments.

Now some updates at home… we recently welcomed our baby Sharon who was born in December to come back home. I am busy adjusting to the fact that I am now a mother, and so I will have much less time doing the things that I like to do – including blogging.

So if you don’t see any updates from me, just email me at and I will perhaps write an update or two. Thank you for understanding. 🙂


Fringe Property – For Sale Or Rent (Part 2)

This is a follow-up post from the last week’s post on getting a piece of real estate for your investment. So what’s coming up is another set of tips and techniques which you can use in order to acquire a piece of prime real estate which will give you the capital yield that you are looking for.

First of all, determine what you really want from the real estate investment. Do you want good rental yields from the land or apartment which you are going to acquire? Or are you thinking of cashing out in a couple of years time in order to maximize the returns on your investment? These two are vastly different when it comes to making the most money. You will have to consider your options more carefully especially when it comes to choosing a real estate investment which is closer to what you want. There are also some questions on ethics which you will need to consider – read this article on Oprah on the same topic.

Secondly, you will need to consider your budget as well. Not everybody can afford a piece of prime real estate (for example, something in downtown Dubai or a KLCC condo such as Park Seven), and so you will need to narrow down your choices to invest by carefully considering how much you have to invest in your choice of real estate. This can be trickier than you think. For example, figuring out your monthly cash flow can be tedious especially when you are doing it for the first time. If you are not financially “literate” then you might want to engage someone who is, or get professional help as much as possible. What is important here is that you may also want to have a tracker spreadsheet which gives you a good template which you can use to compare your choices of properties according to the criteria that you have already narrowed down –

With this spreadsheet, you will be able to determine much more effectively what the “realistic” choices are and then you can decide more effectively. Here some Excel skills will be invaluable!

Now if you are still unsure of what to do then it is advisable to go and get a realtor or a real estate broker which you can trust in order to make these decisions for you. Of course, a reputable property broker will make all the difference, and if you do not know a good one then you will be at a distinct disadvantage when it comes to picking up the gems in the real estate industry.

Of course, you will need to pay these experts to do your bidding for you but it’s all worth it. Real estate is no joke, and if you are able to make the capital yield that you want then you will be able to reap the benefits and realize your return-on-investment goals many times over.

After all, it’s a question of ROI!

Once you have honed your skills on picking up the right real estate investments then you will be able to easily see or identify what the property gems are which will make you a lot of money. The key here is not to be afraid when it comes to making real estate investments, and with the right amount of experience you will be able to figure out what to do even without relying on a fancy spreadsheet.

Next week I am going to post another blog article on the same topic of real estate and investments, so watch this space!

Dazzle Her By Saying The Right Things!

Hi guys!  Do you know that I’m a sucker for compliments?  I remember one time thinking that the guy I was with was just trying to flatter me yet what he said still made me smile.  Perhaps it is our nature as women to appreciate compliments more than men do.  And the good feeling I had about that compliment lasted for quite some time.  Perhaps you guys should take learn to be more vocal about appreciating our good qualities.

Today we feature a blog post from our sister site, Fringe Dating dotNet.

We all know it’s sometimes very hard to attract women. Many women are very selective when it comes to the men they date. That makes it very important to always be at your best behavior if you want to find a girlfriend. One of the best ways to attract a girlfriend is through the use of compliments; but of course this presumes that you know what to say. While this might seem easy, it is more challenging than you might think. Women are much more sensitive than men are, so you need to be especially careful when talking to the girl you like. So, what should you say to her, the girl you like?

Fringe Dating – Conversation Strategies

Begin each day by giving her a compliment. Tell her that you like her outfit or her hair. Make sure that you give her a genuine compliment every day. If you hear her mention that she is getting her hair done tomorrow, make sure that you comment on it the next day. Women love it when you notice a change in their appearance.

You should be in an upbeat mood whenever giving a compliment.  If you are in a lackluster mood, women aren’t as likely to appreciate the compliment. At the end of the compliment, flash a genuine smile. This will put the woman in a good mood for the rest of the day. She will associate the positive feeling she gets from your compliment with you. This will pay off when you ask her out on a date. While she might have declined to go on a date with you when you first met her, she will be more likely to go on a date with you after a few daily compliments. She will associate you with a good time and thus won’t hesitate to say yes the  next time you ask. This is exactly how to get a girlfriend if you have no clue where to start.

Offer to help the girl you like with anything she may be having difficulty with.  Run an errand for her, tutor her in math or music, play with her young sibling – be as helpful as you can.  This will help her build good feelings about you. She will know that you are a person she can count on, which is something girls look for in the men they date. Some like “indicators of value” such as ownership of property. Some like brains rather than brawn. Lisa Kagan talks about this here.

Now that you know what to say, you should be able to attract the right girl in no time. While complimenting a girl that you like everyday takes some getting used to, in time it will seem natural. As long as you are genuine in your conversations with the girl you like, you should have no problem winning her heart. Always be sensitive to the way she feels and make sure that she feels comfortable around you. Once she agrees to go on a date with you, keep showing her your great personality!

If you need help building your personality, check out brainwave entrainment programs.

If you can use more personalized coaching on confidence and personality improvement, attend my Yoga and Meditation class – go here.