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Hello guys!  This is still Jeanette, this time posting a few relationship tips we can learn from watching Hollywood celebrity updates!

Many women, like me, enjoy watching TV programs which focus on the lives and relationships of Hollywood celebrities.  I like watching both the victories as well as the breakups, not because I am nosy; I really think we can learn from both the successes and failures of other people especially with regard to relationships, thus this post.

Watching TMZ and following the interesting and exaggerated and sensationalized world of the world’s elite and most popular people might not be everyone’s cup of tea – especially not amongst most men. But trust me, it has its benefits.

But first, here’s a lesson on how to approach a woman anywhere you meet her.

Relationship Lessons

In this article, let me break down some of the most valuable relationship lessons from some of Hollywood’s men (and maybe women) that you, Mister, can definitely learn from. So brace yourselves, watch your Hollywood counterparts succeed in their own relationships carefully followed around by the careful and scrutinizing lens of the paparazzi cams.  Here are a few tips we can take from the lives of our onscreen idols:

Drugs don’t do you or your relationship any good. So Charlie Sheen may still have kept his superstar status net-worth wise but drugs have certainly dragged him down leading to a nasty divorce and child-custody battle with the Denise Richards. So forget about even trying any type of illegal drugs, or you’ll end up with the nastiest wrinkles and the worst signs of premature ageing you’ll ever see.

Cheating is bad, very bad. I’m not sure who I should start with on cheating, but I guess Jude Law will do the job. Jude Law kind of had a cheating streak that made him quite infamous. His charm moved several notches down when he did it once, and even further when he did it again.  And that’s just Jude Law; let’s not even start discussing Tiger Woods. Darling, cheating is bad. It’s not something you should do with pros or the advice of pros. It’s something you should NEVER do with anyone at all.

Funny guys snag gorgeous girls. Funny guy Jason Sudeikis is hardly Sexiest Man of the Year material, but he is dating the gorgeous, stunning, and very, very beautiful Olivia Wilde. So start improving that humorous side of yours and put it to good use.

There’s more to a relationship than just good looks, because even the most handsome ones can fail in relationships too. Ryan Reynolds, aka the Green Lantern, was the Sexiest Man Alive of a few years ago, but that didn’t stop the failure of his marriage with equally attractive chick Scarlett Johansson.

A proper breakup is always called for. Liam Hemsworth would have done Miley Cyrus and himself a big favor if he just broke up with her properly and maybe even sooner. It just got more complicated when they took it much longer than they should have. You think he could be partially responsible for her rebellious twerking???

Great men keep great friendships for a very, very long time. Okay, so this may not technically count for a romantic relationship but hey, a friendship is a relationship too! Take Rob Scheider and Adam Sandler, or James Franco and Seth Rogen, and tons of other Hollywood man BFF’s. Keeping a great friend for a long, long time will tell girls that you do know a thing or two about commitment and loyalty.

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Be Her Girlfriends’ Best Friend

Hello friends!

Do you know that I am part of a large group of women friends?  My friends and I have been on many adventures together, and I’ve known most of them since high school; that is much longer than I have known any of my past boyfriends and even the current one.  To say that I am very tight with my group is a gross understatement.  As such, their opinions affect me in the same manner as my opinions also sway them.  Good thing my current boyfriend gets along with them very well!

Everyone knows that girls never operate alone. If you think men work better in groups, you’ve really got to see women in action. We are always in groups! Maybe we are just as good professionally solo, but our extra time is always spent with a girlfriend or two. Girls hardly shop alone, or go to the salon alone; women in far flung farms in the developing countries of this world tend to their plants together and enjoy their hearty leaf-wrapped lunch together; heck, a good dating story is never fun and enjoyed alone! We love group calls, group chats, and group everything – yes, today’s woman has made a social group out of her every activity.

And therefore, if you – the enamored gentleman – cannot win the hearts of her friends, your ladylove will never be fully happy with you. And your would-be relationship would never be as awesome and as fun for her – the “you-and-me-against-the-world” kind of romance kind of takes a bigger toll when her friends make up most the “the world” for her.

Want some tips on making a girl laugh (killer seduction trick from SIBG)? This will definitely help you!

Win Her Girlfriends

So it is important to win her girlfriends. It doesn’t matter whether these girlfriends have outwardly expressed their hate towards you; it is important that her friends like you in the same way that it would make a huge difference if your friends like your ladylove:

Arrange special dates between you and her girlfriends. So what if you have to spend time at the karaoke, belting out to Spice Girls and Adele all night? Or get your manly toenails nailfiled to your manliness death if it means exchanging high-five’s with the very girls who will tell her to give you one more chance when your girlfriend wants to break up with you? Yes, it will be worth it to swap beer nights with a few apple martini nights every once in a while.

Don’t give her a hard time when she wants a girls’ night out. Apart from spending time with them, it would also be great if she never has to whine to her friends about you not letting her go out with them. Don’t be an anarchist! Let her go out when she wants to as long as it does not get in the way of your own quality time!

Get them to connive with you on your surprises for your ladylove. This is a double winner: you make your lovey happy, and you also make her friends happy for her. Real girlfriends are those who feel happy when something enviably wonderful happens to their friend, and if she has these exact same friends, they’ll love you for the way you love their friend.

Praise your girlfriend in front of them. Nothing beats the oooh-ing and aaah-ing of inspired girls when one of their own finds the best man for her. And you’ve got to be that best man who makes them gush and sigh when you talk to them about your girlfriend. That’s a sure winner!

See previous blog post also ????

So, are you ready to win them girlfriends? *Wink* and *Z-snap*

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Winning Her Mom’s Vote

Hi friends!

Do you know that I just told my boyfriend it may be time for him to meet my parents?  You all should have seen the reaction on his face.  Maybe he watched and believed in the situations shown in the movie “Meet the parents.”  But you know what? Unless you have less than good intentions, meeting and impressing the parents should not be too hard.  The best way to get a headstart is to make sure you impress her mother – it’s she who will likely win the father’s approval for you.

After meeting her girlfriends, there comes a time in a lasting relationship where you’d have to meet each other’s parents. While may think the father of your girlfriend will be your greatest challenge, impressing her mommy wouldn’t exactly be easy either, although she’d be much more accommodating and much less intimidating to say the least (just imagine all the treats and goodies she’s going to make for you when you come over to visit).  It all depends on how you approach her.

Well, how to make a woman like you is a way easier to learn than to make her mom like you.

Tips to impress her Mom

However, in comparison to the difficulty of having to impress her dad, impress her mom could work to your advantage. Getting her vote, after all, is inching just a tiny wee bit closer to impressing her dad. So how do you win mommy? Here are some very wonderful tips:

Always come with a special gift just for her. Men will always worry exaggeratedly about what gift to give to the daddy and just settle on some fresh flowers for the mommy. That’s terribly  wrong way to impress women. Ask your girlfriend about what her mom likes and what makes her happy. Great suggestions would be a new tea set, some ornamental plant if she’s a green thumb, or a framed cross stitch work for her foyer or living room.

Call her beforehand. It would take a lot of guts and maybe a shot of tequila straight up to get the courage to make that call but if you nail it, you’d be one step ahead. Call to ask about her, if there’s anything you can get for her on the day you visit, and just generally get yourself semi-acquainted before the big meet.

Ask about her daughter’s childhood. Not every guy around has that kind of interest in their lover’s past; the ladies may be more attuned and more interested to these sort of things, but your girlfriend’s mother would be more than delighted to tell you her stories. (This might cause your girlfriend to blush a bit though).

Dress to impress. Your girlfriend’s mother comes from a different generation, more likely than not, a generation that knows how to value proper grooming and being well-dressed. So dress the part of the guy who wants to be decent when he gets introduced to the most important people in his girlfriend’s life. You don’t have to look fancy or rich, but you have to look respectable. Putting an effort to look your best is showing that in fact you respect and value the opportunity of getting to know them. And while most men let this little detail slip away, the mommy absolutely won’t.

Make her laugh. Humor is a very important component in every relationship and it is one of the most efficient ways to break the ice. And it is your best tool in winning your girlfriend’s mother. Stick to old school, nicety nice kind of humor, or poke-fun-at-yourself kind of jokes. She may not exactly get the allusion on pop culture stuff so keep things friendly and chronologically relevant.

Put your best foot forward with your manners. Etiquette sweeps any potential mother-in-law off her feet, everytime. So never forget your own mom’s lessons about it!

Good luck!

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Don’t You Dare Tell Her These Things

Good day friends!

One of the most common complaints from men is that it is very hard to understand women.  on the other hand, I feel so frustrated that men don’t understand us women – and I am by no means alone.  That is something that may have contributed to my latest breakup, and a few others before that. One  of the usual things that bring a relationship to a head is when men, unintentionally for the most part, offend women with the things they say.

Men don’t know women. And perhaps they never will.

It’s funny just how long men have been chasing women and how far the human civilization has come but men still find women a total mystery. Except for the chosen few amongst the male lot who have mastered the SIBG guide on humor seduction or called themselves experts in women (aka playboys and gays), men still make the same mistakes their ancestors did. Forgotten dates, inappropriate gifts, and more commonly, wrong remarks are the top three on the women’s offense list. And mind you, it is wrong.

5 things you shouldn’t tell her.

And since wrong remarks are the most common offense (and oftentimes, the most offensive), here’s a little heads up to every man out there. Here are 5 things a woman would never want to hear from her man:

“You don’t look good in that dress”. This becomes extra offensive if she dressed and made up for hours to go out with you. Boy, remember this: she wants you to appreciate her, and she just definitely wants you to be proud of her, and be proud to be walking around with her. Not so much for being a trophy girlfriend, but it does not harm our female egos for our men to show us off.

“Did you gain weight?” The only way this statement is non-offensive is if your girlfriend is underweight and is working hard on gaining weight. But for the most of us, we are in a constant battle with weight gain, expanding waistlines, and arms that seem to be in a size competition with the size of our legs.  Why not try “Have you lost some weight?” for better results? [15]

“My ex *insert verb here* so much better!” of “My ex is *insert comparative adjective here*”. Even when you didn’t mean it to belittle your girlfriend, anything that tells her that she’s inferior to your ex-girlfriend in any way is offensive and could land you in the couch for several nights, along with several servings of the cold shoulder! Seriously, how would you feel if you get compared to your girlfriend’s ex-boyfriend? You likely wouldn’t like it knowing the average size of the male ego! (Oh and one other tip: any mention of the ex would similarly merit the same amount of rage from your girlfriend so just avoid it at all costs anyway).

“You’re just like your mother”. Mother-daughter relationships are as sweet as it is competitive. And definitely not all women appreciate being compared to their own moms, mostly because they get a lot of that at home. You are likely to be opening up old wounds if you drop this type of bomb and she may never forgive you for it.

“It was nothing, not a big deal!” A woman makes a big deal out of everything, that’s for sure. And if you made a mistake, if you did something that’s obviously wrong and made her upset, the last thing you’d want to do is shrug it off as something that’s “not a big deal” and try to get away with it, or worst, justify it.

Saying this to a woman is the worst way to end a relationship with her. So, men, which of these are you guilty of?

Instead, read this article to know what is the right thing to say ????

Questions? Concerns? Need advice? Need tips? Email me now at Jenny@fringefamous.com! I’ll promise to get back to all of you as fast as I can! God Bless!

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Making A Clean Break With A Difficult Ex

Hi people.  I’m back!  This post is about dealing with a dreadful ex, so you guys better read on!

For me, the hardest part of a relationship is the breakup.

All breakups, even the ones which are mutually decided, hurt.  What makes it hurt more is if one party just cannot move on and keeps pestering the other.  But there are ways to limit the damage you can suffer from a difficult ex.  I’ve listed a few tips in this post.  I hope you all find it helpful.

Everyone has had a difficult ex, only some more difficult, more annoying, and sometimes more hateful than others. But then again, the true measure of a man is not always on how he does things but how he reacts to things and situations life throws at him.

This remains true of dealing with a difficult ex. [Your not-so-wonderful former lover can do everything she feels like doing, but what you do with whatever she’s doing is what truly matters and what defines what happens between you two.

Before I give you the rundown on how to deal with a difficult ex, check out this article on SIBG.com. It’s going to give you a good primer on how to keep your emotions intact when your ex becomes unbearable. Ready? Here are some helpful tips that you can try in dealing with a difficult ex:

Talk.

Talk like mature adults. Talk in a public place where she cannot do her drama – restaurant, park, diner, mall, or other similar places. See, one of the most common traits of difficult ex-girlfriends is their ability to start a drama and blow everything out of proportion. No man wants that. On the other hand, no woman wants to risk humiliating herself, so taking her to talk in a public place is your safest choice. Just make sure you choose a spot where you guys can actually talk and hear each other out without risking having other people hear your conversation. And remember: be honest, direct, and respectful. Avoid making her feel too comfortable because it might send the wrong message. Do not beat around the bush and don’t linger and JUST TELL HER OFF. Oh, and do it ONCE-AND-FOR-ALL.

Ignore her.

Ignore her drunk texts, drunk calls, and the give-me-attention antics. Difficult exes are so good at that. No, don’t even to tell her to shut up or to stop it. See, that’s why ‘the talk’ was a once-and-for-all thing because you won’t do it again. You’ve broken up so there won’t be anything that remains between you two. So even if she bangs on your door every night, or calls you every minute, or even stalks you. Just ignore her. Ignoring her will send her the message to lay off and to leave you alone. If it doesn’t, go to the police and get a restraining order.

Don’t let her manipulate you.

It’s always more difficult for you guys if your exes are a little too emotional and border on the self-injuring and suicidal types. They’d eat out on your guilt and manipulate you by threatening to hurt themselves.  If she does this, she’s clearly in need of psychological help. Reach out to her and convince her to see a professional; at the same time, reach out to her family and friends because they are the people who can take care of her the most.

Be civil when you see each other in public.

So your relationship’s ending was the absolute worst— but remember, you still have to carry on and act in a civil manner. When you accidentally meet her in public, expect her to do something dramatic or attention-grabbing. She could do something as annoying as tailing behind you or talking with your lady companion, or something as crazy as grabbing your behind or creating a scene – who knows, really. Whatever she does, be civil and give her nothing more than smile and a nod and then walk away. It’s simple, respectful but tells her that you don’t have any business with each other.

The best and perhaps only thing to remember when it comes to how you treat your difficult ex is this: treat her the way you want to be treated – with respect for whatever you’ve had and whatever you have separately at present. You may never be lovers again, and you may never even be friends but you can still be civil and treat each other in a mature manner.

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