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As my maiden post, I will answer a frequently asked question about meditation in general. Novices usually ask this question, and it is a sticking point amongst those who are already intermediate level when it comes to meditating as well.
If you have noticed that your meditation sessions aren’t as effective as they used to be, you’re probably wondering what you’re doing wrong. Chances are, you aren’t doing anything wrong. Sometimes, you just need to stimulate your senses. One way to stimulate your mind is with brainwave entrainment. Brainwave entrainment can help you meditate by synchronizing your brainwaves. The following paragraphs will discuss in detail how to meditate with brainwave entrainment.
The first step to meditating with brainwave entrainment is finding a good CD. There are many music stores that specialize in producing brainwave entrainment CD. Many brainwave entrainment CDs can’t be found on the internet, so it is best to see which music stores are in your area. Most likely, one of the workers at the music stores will be able to steer you in the right direction when it comes to which CDs are good and which ones aren’t. If you can’t find any music stores that have brainwave entrainment CDs, then you can search for tracks online. The great thing about shopping online for brainwave entrainment tracks is that you can demo many different tracks in a matter of minutes. You can also view track ratings, which can help you decide which ones to purchase.
Headphones – The Essential Component
After you have gotten some good brainwave entrainment tracks, you need to get a pair of high quality headphones. (I personally like Beats by Dr Dre). The reason that you need to get a pair of high quality headphones is so that the brainwave entrainment tracks work as intended. If your ears aren’t comfortable or the tracks sound fuzzy, you won’t be able to get the full effect of the tracks. Even though high quality headphones can be expensive, they are worth the investment.
After you have purchased both the tracks and the headphones, you are ready to start meditating. It is important not to significantly alter your meditation pattern after you have purchased your brainwave entrainment tracks. The only change to your meditation pattern should be that tracks are playing in the background. As for the volume of the tracks, you want to make sure that the volume is high enough for you to hear all of the beats. But at the same time, you don’t want the volume to be so loud that you can’t concentrate on meditating.
Now that you know how to meditate with brainwave entrainment, you should start to have much better meditation sessions. It is always disappointing when your meditation sessions start to flat line, but there is always a way to get them to be more productive. As long as you get good tracks and high quality headphones, you should see a significant improvement in your focus while meditating. Also, you should feel more relaxed by the end of the session. As with any mediation technique, you need to make sure that you give brainwave entrainment enough time to work before you discount it as an effective method. Once you have experienced the benefits of brainwave entrainment first hand, you’ll wonder how you ever meditated without it. It’s also scientifically proven – here’s a comprehensive review of the psychological effects of brainwave entrainment.
Hope you found that useful!
PS: Latest updates (Jan 11th):- I have been getting emails about some specifics on using brainwave entrainment tracks in order to “fall into alpha state” when meditating. It’s really tricky, I know, but the best advice I can give you is practice, practice and practice. I frequently put on some music on meditation (like the ones you find on http://meditationmusicx.com), and it somewhat helps. I am not an expert on the subject matter, but listening to background music (such as omharmonics) will induce alpha and beta waves in your brain. This works for many people, and if you are just starting out you will definitely help you to calm your senses and rid your mind from distraction. I have suffered from Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) for about ten years now, and the stuff I found online (meditation music on YouTube, or even the NeuroActivator.com programs) really helped.
I could almost hear you say it. I know right? Yoga AND date? If you’ve read the story why I created this site, you’d know that I did to relieve me of stress. I really want to try out meditation for health reasons. When I say health, I mean physical and psychological. If you haven’t read my story, you may read it here. But hey, that doesn’t mean I can’t talk about other stuff!
A few months ago, I bumped into a friend of mine in a quaint little café near the subway. We haven’t seen each other in a while, so we doubled the effort of trying to catch up with one another over a cup of tea. I particularly noticed how amazing her body looked (and I’m not talking about courtesy here—she REALLY, REALLY looked amazing), so I asked her what has she been up to these days and whatever she was doing to make her body look like it was Photoshopped to perfection.
So, I got my answer—yoga.
The next thing I knew, she was showing me a photo of this really hot guy. He happens to be her new boyfriend. And they met in their yoga class.
I decided to sign up for a yoga class immediately after. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t sign up to get a date. But if my friends are up to it, I am backing them up 100 percent. So anyway, like any normal person would, I depended on Google to show me more information on how to begin, but I was quite held back because the options presented to me were quite overwhelming. There are simply too many types of yoga to begin with! Luckily, my friend made my life easier by inviting me over to her Hatha yoga class. Five months later, I am hooked.
And guess what, I’ve made friends with a lot of gorgeous women in that span of time. The guys, although outnumbered, are equally hot. There is something about those who practice yoga that attracts you to them. I just can’t say what it is exactly. Could be the right amount of confidence or the light aura they exude. I am totally sold that yoga could be the answer to your needs — physical, mental, emotional even.
While many people take up yoga classes mainly for physical fitness, I signed up for its pyschological health benefits. But having a GREAT body because of it is, of course, a hefty bonus! But seriously, the relationship between meditation and health is something that should not be ignored.
Practicing yoga is definitely an experience by itself. Enrolling yourself in a yoga class is your first step to a healthy mind and body. If you want to practice yoga but do not know where to start exactly, here are some basics that can guide you as you start your journey towards well-being.
There are different types of yoga you can choose from. Different strokes for different folks, so they say. I’m listing down four types and I’ve highlighted what each type is all about to help you decide:
Hatha yoga’s essential component would be a purification of the mental, physical, emotional, and energetic bodies. This element of purification is essential because it is believed to address even the most subtle aspects of the human body. Meditation plays a key role in hatha yoga, because concentration and focus is physically and mentally demanded during poses. Brainwave entrainment explores the benefits of hatha yoga, making it the best choice in helping one find spiritual freedom.
Raja yoga, also known as Ashtanga yoga, is a more traditional type of yoga that originated in India between 100 and 300 AD. This type of yoga is mostly correlated with intuition and psychic perception; and it is also one of the most advanced types of yoga to practice. Raja yoga requires its practitioner to have reached a state of “self-realization” in order to take advantage of the poses.
Popular in the West, Karma yoga focuses on the practitioner’s thoughts, actions, and feelings. The neverending cycle of birth, life, death, and rebirth allows for a more spiritual connection that enables the practitioner to achieve a unique state of calm and stability.
Jnana yoga is becoming more popular over the years, as its approach revolves around rational deduction, wisdom, and intellect. Practitioners of Jnana yoga are taught poses that will aid them to remove self-judgment and self-misconceptions. The process in finding spirituality through Jnana yoga involves Discrimination, Dispassion, Virtue, and Liberation.
On Your Way to Spirituality
Practicing yoga truly has a lot of benefits. I have to admit it is not easy—but no pain, no gain, right? Finding your spiritual path through yoga would allow you to conquer life as it happens, and live a life free from worries and anxieties.
If you are a mom like me, try to fit yoga in your tight schedule and you’d be thankful you did. It is indeed a stress-buster, even your kids would be thankful. It takes away your worries and gives you a fresher, brighter outlook. Your partner would be delighted, too, when he sees you in your little black dress on your next date night.
I actually think yoga is perfect for everyone. Whether you’re a single or married woman who lives a fast-paced life or a guy who has tried all the techniques in picking up girls to no avail, this is for you! It makes you exude positive energy so you attract positive energy, too. Don’t just take my word, though. Go out and try it!
Back in college, I remember having this guy friend who started disappearing when she started going out with this really hot, really popular girl in school. They were always together so we thought, ‘ahh well, new romance! Who can’t say no to a girl as pretty as her?’ They can never be seen apart, they are always together, and I believe the maximum distance between them is about less than a centimeter in public places. He waits for her outside the ladies’ room, as she does for him, they eat on the same plate, they wear matching clothes, and I swear I thought they had each other’s face already. We were amazed at the way our friend knows how to attract women, especially popular girls in school.
You would have thought they were the happiest couple and paradise hath come upon them when they were together. But we were wrong. He was unhappy. I was bewildered when he said how he was really feeling, six months into their relationship. He felt choked, he felt his personal space was violated, and he felt like he lost himself because she wants all of his attention, time, and all of him. He hated her being clingy.
But what exactly is a clingy girl?
Clingy – girls and boys alike – are people who are so insecure about themselves that they turn to their partners for security. They are quite normal when they are with friends and around other people, only their partners know how weird they can get. They are extremely illogically jealous and as was already mentioned, they want their partners all to themselves forever and ever and ever!!
Finding the words to say around girls may be hard, but a little warning: clingy girls(and clingy men) would definitely hold on to every word you say. So be careful and watch what you’re saying, if your significant other is clingy. Do not make false promises or they will make your life a living hell when you break it.
I don’t understand why but for some reason, we are more aware of clingy women than clingy men. But I am pretty sure clingy men do exist even in its purest form.
For some people, clinginess is a red flag for a long-term relationship, while others get high on the attention. If you are one guy who can’t stand the thought of living in a world where only the two of you are together, then here are some telltale signs of clinginess in a girl:
- She’s always calling you. And when she’s not, she’s texting you.
- She texts you when you are not responding to her text for more than 5 minutes.
- She gets illogically jealous even of people who she shouldn’t be jealous of (i.e. sisters or female cousins)
- She gets jealous of your friends and thinks they are bad influence on you
- She gets upset everytime you go out anywhere without her
- She won’t do things without you
- All her time and all her attention is on you and she expects you to do the same
- She spies on you through friends and acquaintances
- She wants a detailed information of your daily routine and whereabouts
Clingy girls are not bad girls; something in their lives have turned them into these kind of people. They maybe have been so badly hurt in the past and this is just their way of coping. They want full control of their partners just so they don’t get hurt again.
If this is not your kind of thing, then end the relationship before it blossoms as soon as you realize you can’t stand this kind of attention. Otherwise, you’ll both end up in a mire of hurt, anger and jealousy. Save yourselves!
I’ve been juggling a thousand jobs ever since I became a mom, but one thing that’s been occupying my schedule lately(besides the occasional diaper-changing and cradle-rocking) is reuniting with one of my first loves– theatre. Being abroad makes me miss a sense of home, so all I can do right now is to read about the ever-vibrant scene of New York theatre and the glam of Broadway. Nothing makes me more excited than performing onstage, but for now, all I can do is get updated with the latest in theatre coming from the other side of the planet. Somehow–it lessens my stress.
Still in the process of gathering all the fun and delightful experiences, and I am really excited to share all of them with you soon. Til then, stay safe!
OK, I am now back at blogging after a short break. Welcome me back, people.
So recently I have been catching up on my reading, and I came across this really good book on Amazon about property flipping:-
It’s called Flip, and it’s about acquiring a property and flipping it for maximum profit. As you know, I am also an investor in real estate (particularly in Malaysia) – see my previous blog posts here and here. Admittedly I am a beginner at this, and I have yet to make any real money in property investment. However, I am confident that I will be able to make it this year – to turn a nice profit from my portfolio of real estate investments.
Now some updates at home… we recently welcomed our baby Sharon who was born in December to come back home. I am busy adjusting to the fact that I am now a mother, and so I will have much less time doing the things that I like to do – including blogging.
So if you don’t see any updates from me, just email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will perhaps write an update or two. Thank you for understanding.
This is a follow-up post from the last week’s post on getting a piece of real estate for your investment. So what’s coming up is another set of tips and techniques which you can use in order to acquire a piece of prime real estate which will give you the capital yield that you are looking for.
First of all, determine what you really want from the real estate investment. Do you want good rental yields from the land or apartment which you are going to acquire? Or are you thinking of cashing out in a couple of years time in order to maximize the returns on your investment? These two are vastly different when it comes to making the most money. You will have to consider your options more carefully especially when it comes to choosing a real estate investment which is closer to what you want. There are also some questions on ethics which you will need to consider – read this article on Oprah on the same topic.
Secondly, you will need to consider your budget as well. Not everybody can afford a piece of prime real estate (for example, something in downtown Dubai or a KLCC condo such as Park Seven), and so you will need to narrow down your choices to invest by carefully considering how much you have to invest in your choice of real estate. This can be trickier than you think. For example, figuring out your monthly cash flow can be tedious especially when you are doing it for the first time. If you are not financially “literate” then you might want to engage someone who is, or get professional help as much as possible. What is important here is that you may also want to have a tracker spreadsheet which gives you a good template which you can use to compare your choices of properties according to the criteria that you have already narrowed down -
- Location – The Biggest Consideration As Far As Real Estate Is Concerned
- Your Budget – How Much You Can Afford
- The Developer
- Landed vs Non-Landed Property
- Monthly Payments
- Debt vs Equity
- Your Line Of Credit – Quality & Quantity
With this spreadsheet, you will be able to determine much more effectively what the “realistic” choices are and then you can decide more effectively. Here some Excel skills will be invaluable!
Now if you are still unsure of what to do then it is advisable to go and get a realtor or a real estate broker which you can trust in order to make these decisions for you. Of course, a reputable property broker will make all the difference, and if you do not know a good one then you will be at a distinct disadvantage when it comes to picking up the gems in the real estate industry.
Of course, you will need to pay these experts to do your bidding for you but it’s all worth it. Real estate is no joke, and if you are able to make the capital yield that you want then you will be able to reap the benefits and realize your return-on-investment goals many times over.
After all, it’s a question of ROI!
Once you have honed your skills on picking up the right real estate investments then you will be able to easily see or identify what the property gems are which will make you a lot of money. The key here is not to be afraid when it comes to making real estate investments, and with the right amount of experience you will be able to figure out what to do even without relying on a fancy spreadsheet.
Next week I am going to post another blog article on the same topic of real estate and investments, so watch this space!
Today we feature a blog post from our sister site, Fringe Dating dotNet.
As you probably know, it can be very hard to attract women. A lot of women are very selective when it comes to the men they date. It is very important to always be on your best behavior if you want to find a girlfriend. One of the best ways to get a girlfriend is by complimenting her. In order to do this you need to know what to say. While this might seem easy, it is a more challenging task than you might think. Women are much more sensitive than men are. Because of this you need to be especially careful when talking to the girl you like. So, what should you say to the girl you like?
Fringe Dating – Conversation Strategies
At the beginning of every day, you should always compliment the girl you like. Tell her that you like her outfit or her hair. Make sure that you give her a genuine compliment every day. If you hear her mention that she is getting her hair done tomorrow, make sure that you comment on it. Women love it when you notice a change in their appearance. When you are giving her a compliment, you should be in an upbeat mood. If you are in a lackluster mood, women aren’t as likely to appreciate your compliment. At the end of the compliment, give a genuine smile. This will put the woman in a good mood for the rest of the day. She will associate the positive feeling she gets from your compliment with you. This will pay off when you ask her out on a date. While she might have decline to go on a date with you when you first met her, she will be more likely to go on a date with you after daily compliments. She will associate you with a good time and won’t hesitate to say yes. This is exactly how to get a girlfriend if you have no clue where to start.
You should also ask to help the girl you like with anything she is having trouble with. By offering to help the girl you like, the girl will build up good feelings about you. The girl will know that you are a person she can count on, which is something girls look for in the men they date. Some like “indicators of value” such as ownership of property. Some like brains rather than brawn. Lisa Kagan talks about this here.
Now that you know what to say to a girl you like, you should be able to attract the right girl in no time. Even though it can take some time to get used to complimenting the girl you like every day, it will get easier over time. As long as you are genuine in your conversations with the girl you like, you should have no problem winning over her heart. Always be sensitive to the way she feels and make sure that she feels comfortable around you. Offering to help her with anything she’s having trouble with is the best way to guarantee you’ll get a date with her. Once she agrees to go on a date with you, keep showing her your great personality! If you need help building personality, check out brainwave entrainment programs.
A quick announcement – the Fringe theater group is looking for property for sale or rent. We are going on a tour from February till May next year in Southeast Asia, and will be grateful if any of our readers could lend a helping hand as far as getting us a place to stay for the short term.
We have started to look for some prime real estate in the region for both investment and also a pad for our team during our frequent tours to Southeast Asia. For this purpose we have engaged a number of real estate brokers to help us in our decision. We thought of sharing our experience here for the benefit of our readers.
Property For Sale – Help Needed
First of all, we had to choose a piece of property which is suitable for our team of twelve fringe artists. For this reason, we have set up a couple of criteria to help us decide better when it comes to choosing for a piece of real estate in Malaysia to rent or to buy -
- The capital appreciation must be 5% or higher
- High occupancy rates
- Reasonable price per square foot (PSF)
- Nearby (walking distance) amenities as we have heard that traffic in Kuala Lumpur can be heavy during peak hours
Once we have nailed down these criteria then house hunting becomes really easy… we only had to go online in order to look for properties for sale or rent in Malaysia. Our favorite websites for real estate listings in Malaysia are the homes for sale site (note: the site url has been updated recently to http://propertyforsale.com.my), iProperties and also Home Guru. Luckily for us these sites are in English and not in native Malay.
Sorting through the property listings is a breeze – and there are lots of choices to choose from. The best of these sites is the iProperties site which has got lots of listings, and lots of ad banners for me to click to. I really like to look at advertisements. They are awesome – especially the animated ones.
Without local knowledge it is really tough to decide on which property to buy or rent. In this respect it is important to get a local agent who knows about the country. We have only been to Malaysia about six times in the last three months. A local real estate broker would be super helpful in helping us get the best property deals in town.
What’s Happening Next
So what happens next is that I will be shopping around for real estate in Singapore. Properties in Singapore are a lot more expensive than Malaysia properties – and for a reason. The Singapore dollar is also much stronger. With limited budget, it can be hard to get a decent place in Singapore for our Fringe artists. Again, a local Singaporean real estate broker would be invaluable in our quest for the best deals in town.
As far as this blog is concerned, I will be posting a follow-up post to my previous article here on brainwave entrainment. So far the response from our readers have been encouraging, so thank you!
Lots of people asked me what it’s like to be a founding member of FringeFamous.com, and I have a one-word answer for them: STRESS!
Everyday, people are subjected to different forms of stress. A stress can be work related, school related, health related, problems in marriage or relationship, or problems within the family. Any form of stress can trigger an increase in the stress hormone which can bring about a negative physiologic reaction inside our body. And this is the reason I started FringeFamous.com. Let me explain further.
Battling Stress – The Origins of Fringe Famous
One good example would be those who work on a night shift and are thus deprived of good and restful sleep. Sleep deprivation can induce the release of cortisol which is a stress hormone and increasing levels of such hormone in the body can weaken the immune system. As a consequence, the body becomes an easier prey to other forms of stress such as infection and body weakness. Hence, stress can lead to various physical, emotional, social, and even spiritual problems. It is the very reason why most people opt to undergo the process of meditation.
Meditation is the process of setting ones self into a relaxed and focused state which will enable the body to experience a peaceful feeling. It is an activity wherein a person usually sits on the floor in a usual cross legged position with their eyes closed for a period of time. Technically, it is not an activity because you are actually doing nothing. But you are dong nothing to achieve something.
Statistics have shown that people under stress who practice meditating experience less pain and health problems. This is attributed to the finding that people who meditate have calmer mind and thus can easily manage stress than those who don’t meditate. If you have problems “getting into state” when it comes to meditating then it is recommended that you try brainwave entrainment technologies. Here’s an article about this technology.
The importance of meditation can never be overemphasized. Unfortunately, because of tight schedules and heavy workload in majority of people worldwide, only a few are able to successfully undergo meditation. We say successfully because others are able to try to initiate meditation but unfortunately quit at some point. It may be either due to lack of time or lack of discipline. By discipline, we mean the ability to effectively manage time and perform the meditation with consistency.
With meditation, one is able to relieve themselves of stress. However, relief from stress does not mean success in meditation. What success in meditation means is having a consistent and continuous habit of meditation. Consistency means meditating at a consistent time, duration, and style. Continuity means being able to meditate even if the person has already gained the ability to manage stress and meditate for the purpose of having a continuous peace of mind. Some people find it useful to have meditation music playing in the background. Try it.
Meditation is an art as they say. This is why not all people succeed with this kind of art. It requires patience and perseverance. Without which, the probability of quitting is essentially high. It is interesting to note that the more you succeed in your first attempts, the more you gain patience and perseverance and the more you gain them, the more you attain peace. When an individual lives peacefully, he or she becomes more understanding and open-minded.
Perhaps, if all people learn how to meditate, who knows the world might even become a better place. And that is exactly why I started FringeFamous.com, and so now you know.